I don’t want this too be too late so just gonna throw this up rn and edit it later with my notes later so look forward to learning about capacitors :)
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No. I feel weird telling her and maybe making it awkward or like I’m being difficult. fwiw we have talked about the effects of E on our emotions. I don’t know how to offer her my name without asking her to use it for me in private and I don’t want to push her bc she’s my boss.
No I haven’t, what about her?
I don’t know your boss so I can’t know how she’s going to react - but if someone came out to me and told me their new name, I’d be glad they were able to trust me. And that’s a reaction I’ve gotten from other people before.
November is a trans woman and a podcaster. Despite seemingly not having done much voice training, she makes a living primarily by talking. Maybe you would find that comforting?
Also for what it’s worth, 3 months isn’t that long in terms of transitioning. If your voice bothers you, changing it will require patience, but it absolutely can be done.
Probably should have just said my name in the initial conversation tbh. Despite having done it a bunch of times I still suck at coming out. Now idk how to bring it up. Because I really do feel quite nervous about making that request, especially looking/sounding like this.
I can’t pull up any clips of her for some reason. It doesn’t really tbh, but thank you for trying.
No, just a sign of how much time has already passed and if I don’t start soon I will have to and I really don’t want to.
Don’t think it can be tbh. At least I can’t. I can’t even start, or understand it, or anything. Let alone be so exceptional as to get a voice I’d be happy with.
i had this issue starting voice training because too many of the videos on it delved too deeply
and too greedilyinto the technical aspects to make any sense to my useless dipshit brain. my understanding is that is less the case now than it was in the past (with people like transvoicelessons on youtube etc making the switch to a more casual-friendly approach rather than a “get a degree in audio engineering/music theory” one) but if you still find it impossible to understand then honestly you can just ignore all that shit? the easiest way to voice train is just to try and keep trying. sing along to songs that are close to what you wanna sound like, try to imitate voices you enjoy, that sort of thing. in my case i get immense panic/despair when trying to actually practice along to all the various techniques and shit so i just started mimicking instead and it has worked well enough to pass 100% of the time on the phone despite having a relatively deep natural speaking voicei won’t lie and say i’m perfectly thrilled with it but if you main pain point is passing then it could be a valid pathway for you to pursue.
There is still time.
Don’t worry, you get plenty more practice at it. And you don’t need to be perfect: ✔️ Just Do It. If you wait to do things until you’re perfectly happy with your appearance, you’re never going to do anything!