WalrusDragonOnABike [they/them]

I consider myself ace*

*probably, but maybe its just bottom dysphoria that makes me have a hard time finding people attractive. I differ from a lot of aces in a few ways and I know if I did have sex, I’d certainly prefer if I had bottom surgery (not zero-depth) first. I also just struggle with recognizing my own emotions often, which makes being confident about being ace difficult. Regardless of sexual attraction, I do find some kink appealing, but haven’t ever tried engaging with that just because social anxieties.

Anyways, you certainly aren’t alone.

You’re certainly not alone. For me, I feel like a lot of the reason I feel so disconnected from my own emotions is because of repression of gender identity. But that doesn’t mean it makes dealing with identity or expression easy, even if I’m out to my immediate family and friends (to varying degrees). I can’t imagine trying to work through this without having anyone IRL to be supportive or trying to get through couples counseling like that. I hope you are able to overcome your traumas and get to the point your are comfortable expressing yourself.

Very relatable. My favorite part about starting spiro was the reduction in sex drive. Don’t think its done anything about my interest in being tied up though.