Sequel to JohnBrownsBussy
Got my first waist belt finished! It was a bit of a process, namely that I had to completely redesign it when the new PU leather that I got turned out to be too flimsy to be used as a continuous belt, but I was able to make use of strips from some stiffer PU material I already had + tow rings from the hardware store + a thrifted PU belt + other odds and ends. The piece is a little rough at spots, but it’s nice/cool enough to wear out as an accessory for a dress.
Eh, you’d be surprised. I have plenty of friends who consider themselves broke or “a mess” and still engage in fulfilling relationships. I guess I’m also in that camp. It does require being willing to find places to meet potentially compatible folks.
For me, since I lived in a rural state when I started dating, that meant using a queer dating app. Obviously, dating apps suck, but the benefit of them is that everyone there is also looking for somebody. I found a lot of success approaching them with a non-cynical mine: putting effort into my bio and photos, careful filters, being willing to have conversations without feeling the need to “cut to the chase”.
On the other hand, it can also reduce the darkness of the hair, so laser can be less effective later on.
Laser is best for permanent removal/reduction, but until you’re ready to begin laser, epilation at home is pretty effective at temporary reduction.
Congrats! So happy for you.
Got in touch with my gf, and they confirmed that they had talked to the bartender, and it sounds like we both misheard the bartender since he said “dear” and not “sir” which is good to know. I’m just glad to hear that things are alright.
Reposting in the new mega since I didn’t realize that it was up:
Went to the local gay/LGBT bar last night for a bit. My gf wore a skirt and tights going out, which was their first time doing that at the bar. She had worn a skirt to work before, but this was the first time doing it in “public” I supposed. Overall, it was pretty chill. The bar itself is kinda lame (the drinks suck), but there were friends there so was fun to hang out and connect. Sunday is their drag open stage, so that was also fun, although there was a bit of drama. Apparently, one of the drag kings is a conservative, and heard that they were being bad-mouthed for being a conservative and confronted my trans masc friend there (also the drag king is friends with the trans masc’s mom who he still lives with, so yeah). I chatted a bit with one of my other trans masc friends whose style I am so jealous of, but he was pretty impressed that I did leatherwork (my gf showed off their spiked collar I made for them), so I hope the feeling is mutual. I can’t wait to finish up some pieces this week and get longer laces for my knee-highs so I can debut a killer outfit next weekend.
A negative thing that happened, was my gf did get misgendered by the bartender incidentally, and I feel guilty since I kinda forgot to check in with them about it. I think that it was corrected/resolved, but I need to reach out and make sure they’re okay.
My two are he/they, and my partner’s mini-blahaj has any/all pronouns.
Went to the local gay/LGBT bar last night for a bit. My gf wore a skirt and tights going out, which was their first time doing that at the bar. She had worn a skirt to work before, but this was the first time doing it in “public” I supposed. Overall, it was pretty chill. The bar itself is kinda lame (the drinks suck), but there were friends there so was fun to hang out and connect. Sunday is their drag open stage, so that was also fun, although there was a bit of drama. Apparently, one of the drag kings is a conservative, and heard that they were being bad-mouthed for being a conservative and confronted my trans masc friend there (also the drag king is friends with the trans masc’s mom who he still lives with, so yeah). I chatted a bit with one of my other trans masc friends whose style I am so jealous of, but he was pretty impressed that I did leatherwork (my gf showed off their spiked collar I made for them), so I hope the feeling is mutual. I can’t wait to finish up some pieces this week and get longer laces for my knee-highs so I can debut a killer outfit next weekend.
A negative thing that happened, was my gf did get misgendered by the bartender incidentally, and I feel guilty since I kinda forgot to check in with them about it. I think that it was corrected/resolved, but I need to reach out and make sure they’re okay.
Looking for some inspo on pinterest, I am thinking of remixing these two designs:
Found this nice durable black leather belt at a thrift store (1.5 in wide). I was able to use it to make some bracelets/armlets that I am going to add spikes to, and I almost removed the buckle from the remainder before I realized that it was long enough to make a chunky choker for me as well. For the bracelets, I have some 15 mm spikes on order (I only had 20 when I need 32), and I am trying to find a good design for the choker hardware. I could just use two rows of 25 mm long spikes, but I was also think of adding some d-rings/o-rings and chain/charms.
Elon Musk’s Elden Ring build fits that description.
Yeah, Disturbia caps out at US women’s 16/XL, so nothing in the plus range. I’ve heard good things about Midnight Hour, as well as Foxblood and Forest Ink for US stores. Really, I only tried Killstar since they had a big sale and seemed to have a lot of plus size stuff.
Had a great hangout/party last night with folks from our LGBT social/gaming club. Just chilling at our place (mine and my gf’s) after the club ended, in part because the hours for the library we met at got cut and we probably need to find a new locale if we are going to have decent length meetings. Unfortunately, I did drink way too much and I am paying for it dearly this morning. One of our friends is going through some trouble (not abuse or anything, just some emotional conflict) with his boyfriend, so there was a lot of discussion that went deep. I got to go off a bit about Marxist social reproduction theory and how it related to patriarchy and trans folks, which was fun but I hope I didn’t mangle it because I was fucking sloshed.
I was also reminded that one of my friends works at a craft/hobby store (not Hobby Lobby) so that means that we can find a time to go on a shopping trip so I can use his employee discount to buy some supplies I need for my diy punk/goth/alt fashion projects.
I definitely felt this too with my injections early on, as it took a while to get used to the weekly cycle, and also for the baseline to rise. I then had a bit of the opposite problem, where I’d feel “peaky” at the homornal peak and that could also be frustrating. Since I use EV (prescription) I just decided to split my injection in half and make it twice a week to try to have more consistent levels.
That’s in Minneapolis in the winter. That’s a lot of people for how cold it is.
Unfortunately, I am in the plus sizes, so Disturbia doesn’t carry anything that fits me. I might take a look at accessories later, but I think for now I’d like to focus on diy projects.
For example, I really like the look of this belt, but I could easily replicate this design at home.
EDIT: Lol, I was going to add that design to my inspo OneNote, but I had already grabbed it.
Well, yeah. How you relate to your body and gender presentation is the most important part of transition, even if others don’t see it yet.